Finding who you BE beyond your family

Through some deep work and exploration with one of my clients, what I’m coming to see as a real step into adulthood is being able to create yourself and your life beyond your family. That is, to choose for you your own beliefs, thoughts, ideas, or ways of being. To make choices about how you spend your time and run your life based on what you want and what works for you, beyond the framework or desires of your parents or family of origin. In a way, to find your independent and autonomous self… To create your life that is not in alignment and agreement or in resistance and reaction to your parents.

How many ways do you create your life like your parents?
How many ways do you create your life in reaction or resistance to or not like your parents?
In how many ways are your choices and actions influenced by your family?

What if you could go way beyond anything your parents and family were or weren’t and create a life that is of your own design and choosing?

How do you create and choose a life that truly works for you?

Defining and discovering yourself outside of the reality of your family of origin, moving beyond aligning and agreeing with or resisting and reacting to your parents realities, is not only to be part of the process of becoming an adult, but of spiritual maturity, freedom and self-determination.

Any time we resist or react or align or agree with anything we are functioning from limitation. The way to be free of any limitations, including our family is to not resist or react or align and agree. Then we remain in the fullness of choice.

Getting beyond your family frame-work and programming can be truly liberating.

Here’s a little exerciser, just for fun and awareness:

Get a pieces of paper and write the answers down

• Where and how are you creating your life like your parents?

• Where and how are creating your life not like your parents?

• How much of this is in alignment and agreement or resistance and reaction, and how much of it is you just choosing for you?

• Where in your life have you gone beyond your parents’ reality to create something totally and completely different?

• Where in your life does your relationship to your parents or your family of origin keep you stuck, limited, or influenced in a way that is not totally expansive and freeing?

• If you could choose just for you, what would you choose?

• What would it take to be totally free from your family programming and to create and choose your life based on what truly works for you?

When you move beyond the stories, influences, limitations, expectations, judgments, manipulations and agendas of family what else is possible? Let me know what you find out!

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