Receiving Judgment
How many of us stop yourselves because we are afraid to be judged, afraid what others will think?
When you are being more than others are willing to receive or to allow themselves to be, they will go into judgment of you. So, do you want to function from and be controlled by others limitations or are you willing to choose and have a reality that works for you, regardless of what others think?
The more judgment you are willing to receive, the more freedom you have and the more successful you can be. Think of a highly successful person… How much judgment are they willing to receive? How much do they care what others think about them?
The more we are afraid of and shy away from receiving judgment the more we are ruled by what other people think and the more we limit ourselves.
It’s when we’re in fear, contraction and doubt that judgments have power over us. When we are connected to source, to the truth of who we are, to our infinite being, they do not affect us. If you are a glass of water and judgment is a drop of blue ink, it will color the whole glass blue. But what if you’re the ocean? What if you can connect to the part of you that is as wide and vast as the ocean? Put a drop of ink in the ocean and what happens?
And you know what else? Half the judgments you think that others are or will make of you, are actually just your own judgments of yourself, or judgements of themselves that they are not willing to admit.
What would it take for you to stop judging you and allow yourself to be and have all that you already are?
And so-what if other people judge you? Would you rather live a life ruled by the judgments and fear of judgments of others, or can you find a place of willingness to choose and go for what works and is right for you, no matter what others think?
How many brilliant, successful people were judged as nutty, loony, crazy, weird? Was it not their willingness to be different and not to care what anyone else thinks that allowed them to succeed in the ways that they have?
greetings elana, at first i thought this issue didn’t affect me, then i remembered a conversation a few nights ago — after i told a neighbor that i only like to dance with my husband, that i get tense with other men and don’t like classes in which they make you change partners frequently, she commented on how much more i could learn if i could be more comfortable dancing with others.
I now realize that it’s my fear of the judgment of the other men – which of course causes me to tense up and dance less skillfully than i am capable of. So thank you for the awareness of what is lost when one is concerned about the judgment of others, and i hope to soon be tangoing with a dark mysterious stranger! xo, sharon
Hi Sharnon,
I love that story and the new possibility and freedom you are discovering through it. I think that we/I often don’t realize where we might be stopping ourselves, holding ourselves back or creating the reality we are in, until we are willing to take a pause and look a little deeper. I’m celebrating with you the new possibilities and fun, skillfulness and light-hardheartedness on the dance floor!