Create Your Year the Way You Would Like It's a New Year. For many this signifies new beginnings, an opportunity to start fresh, to resolve to take on a new habit, let go of one that doesn't serve you or just the hope and promise that this year will be better than the last. Yet how many of you actually follow through on your new year's resolutions? How closely does your New Year become what you wish it [...]
Begin with the End in Mind Begin. With the end. In mind. I can't tell you how true this is becoming for me, particularly and acutely in how I relate to and engage with other people. Often acting or engaging in ways that have not contributed to creating the kind of connection or engagement I desire, I have begun to really think before I act... So often we choose the opposite. We choose actions that are very unlikely [...]
The Power We Have in Relationships I am realizing just how little power I have over other people, particularly if I want to stay in an empowered place myself. Any time I make another person at fault or responsible for my experience, I have given my power away. When I do that, their behavior determines my experience and consequently requires them to change if I wish to have a different experience. If you think about it, I imagine [...]
What IS actually Possible? Would you like to find out? Have you ever noticed how many conditions and limitations you put on your life? Have you ever noticed how many conclusions you have every day about what is or isn't possible, about that you can and can't do? Me hiking in the Andes in Argentina. I thought I'd NEVER make it to the top, but I DID! I have! And guess what else I noticed? When [...]
Approval Seeking ... I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself, If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul... From The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer How much in your life are you seeking approval from outside yourself for who you are and what you do?... How does that feel? How much do you give yourself inner approval? How much do you do things for yourself, [...]
Being in Acceptance I've been writing a lot about choosing, about honoring your YES and Your NO, on being intolerant, essentially on truly listening to yourself, knowing what's true for you and honoring that. Though it may at first appear contradictory, today I want to write about acceptance You may have heard the statement “what you resist persists.” Maybe you've even found it to be true... As long as we are resisting something, in opposition to something, we [...]
JUST BE When is the last time you just let yourself be? Really be. Without agenda, without expectation, without needing to change, fix, do or accomplish anything? To just listen to an allow your being to find it's own pattern it's own flow, it's own rhythm? Just listening and being? Our culture has such an emphasis on doing, on achieving that keeps many of us constantly on the go, sometimes to the detriment of our own well-being and [...]
The Virtue of Intolerance Tolerance is something that people usually tout as a virtue, as a quality worth developing. In many ways tolerance can be a virtue. I'm also discovering how it can be a hindrance to forward movement, an obstacle to being in full alignment with our beings and having what we want from life. I've done a lot of tolerating in my life- tolerating which has kept me from clearly knowing and owning what I want, [...]