Happy Holidays?!?Or are they? For many people this time of year can be stressful and or challenging on many fronts. What would it take for you to have a truly happy holiday that you enjoy and that works for you? Here are some tips and tools for helping you truly have a Happy Holiday:1Stop taking on other people's stuffHow much of the stress, anxiety, discomfort etc. that you are aware of during the holidays is actually yours? Could you [...]
Subconscious Family Patterning Have you ever noticed that family relationships can be some of the most challenging? This is often because there is a lifetime of history we are bringing into each interaction, history that often includes painful experiences of not having our needs met from people who we have an evolutionary expectation to meet them... history that often includes struggles for power in one way or another, struggles to meet those needs, or get the people we [...]
Finding who you BE beyond your family Through some deep work and exploration with one of my clients, what I'm coming to see as a real step into adulthood is being able to create yourself and your life beyond your family. That is, to choose for you your own beliefs, thoughts, ideas, or ways of being. To make choices about how you spend your time and run your life based on what you want and what works for you, [...]
Choice I’ve been thinking a lot about choice and the power of choice and how it’s the magic and the secret to having what you desire in life… Really. Think about it for a moment. What you choose really does determine the life you’ll have both now and in the future. So many of us desire, dream of, wish or pray for change in our lives, and yet, what we choose stays the same. If we don’t make [...]
Stop Using Money As Your Excuse to Stop You Would all you fabulous, creative, talented, expansive beings please please stop stopping you with money? Ooooh, I know that's a button pusher for some of you! But truly, where do you give your power away to money? Do you determine the life you're willing or able to have based on how much money you have in your possession or have decided is coming to you? How many of you [...]
Some Thoughts on Maturity What does maturity mean to you? What makes someone mature or immature? I began to more-deeply investigate the question of maturity when I noticed I was repeatedly judging someone in my life as immature. Being a practitioner of Nonviolent Communication, which invites us to move beyond our judgement to see more clearly what is actually occurring, I wanted to really unpack what behaviors or ways of being I was labeling as immature. What I came to see [...]
Trust Yourself and Choose for YOU no Justification or Explanation required I am finding the courage to just walk away. Walk away from situations, conditions, dynamics, ways of being and engaging that aren't serving me or resonate for me. Knowing what's true for me in a given moment and trusting and following that truth. It feels truly liberating. No explaining, no justifying, no arguing with myself, also no blame, just clear, present choice about what works for me, how I [...]
"GOOD Relationships" "It only takes one person to have a good relationship..." I heard that piece of information from Byron Katie a while back, but it has taken me a quite a while to really get its meaning. What does that mean? How can that be? My friend was there to listen and make this a good relationship... even if I wasn't having it. So often we blame our partner for how the relationship is [...]
Create Your Year the Way You Would Like It's a New Year. For many this signifies new beginnings, an opportunity to start fresh, to resolve to take on a new habit, let go of one that doesn't serve you or just the hope and promise that this year will be better than the last. Yet how many of you actually follow through on your new year's resolutions? How closely does your New Year become what you wish it [...]
The Power We Have in Relationships I am realizing just how little power I have over other people, particularly if I want to stay in an empowered place myself. Any time I make another person at fault or responsible for my experience, I have given my power away. When I do that, their behavior determines my experience and consequently requires them to change if I wish to have a different experience. If you think about it, I imagine [...]
Approval Seeking ... I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself, If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul... From The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer How much in your life are you seeking approval from outside yourself for who you are and what you do?... How does that feel? How much do you give yourself inner approval? How much do you do things for yourself, [...]
Being in Acceptance I've been writing a lot about choosing, about honoring your YES and Your NO, on being intolerant, essentially on truly listening to yourself, knowing what's true for you and honoring that. Though it may at first appear contradictory, today I want to write about acceptance You may have heard the statement “what you resist persists.” Maybe you've even found it to be true... As long as we are resisting something, in opposition to something, we [...]
The Virtue of Intolerance Tolerance is something that people usually tout as a virtue, as a quality worth developing. In many ways tolerance can be a virtue. I'm also discovering how it can be a hindrance to forward movement, an obstacle to being in full alignment with our beings and having what we want from life. I've done a lot of tolerating in my life- tolerating which has kept me from clearly knowing and owning what I want, [...]
Disengaging for Greater Engagement Do you know how to take a step back? To take some space? To allow for distance? To disengage? Have you allowed yourself to experience the sweetness and benefit that comes when you do? Most of us don't give ourselves this gift, and it can be at great cost to ourselves and our relationships. If you're an empath, if you're sensitive and pick up on what's happening around you then chances are, taking [...]
You can't make me... I spend a fair amount of time with children. Actually, being with and relating to children is one of those special gifts I have. It started when I was just a kid and I guess I just never stopped playing, being with and relating to children. Through my experience I've developed a unique perspective that's part of what I'm here to share with the world. One theme that has been arising recently is the [...]