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Subconscious Family Patterning

Subconscious Family Patterning Have you ever noticed that family relationships can be some of the most challenging? This is often because there is a lifetime of history we are bringing into each interaction, history that often includes painful experiences of not having our needs met from people who we have an evolutionary expectation to meet them... history that often includes struggles for power in one way or another, struggles to meet those needs, or get the people we [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:12:55-07:00June 21st, 2020|Categories: Family|Tags: choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, freedom, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, relationships, self regulation, Self-determination, self-respect, subconscious beliefs, Subconscious patterning|2 Comments

Finding who you be beyond your family

Finding who you BE beyond your family Through some deep work and exploration with one of my clients, what I'm coming to see as a real step into adulthood is being able to create yourself and your life beyond your family. That is, to choose for you your own beliefs, thoughts, ideas, or ways of being. To make choices about how you spend your time and run your life based on what you want and what works for you, [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:00:04-07:00June 11th, 2020|Categories: Family, Transformation|Tags: adulthood, Autonomy, choice, Consciousness, empowerment, family, Family patterning, Family programming, freedom, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons from Depression: Self Denial

Lessons from Depression Lesson Number Two: There's some part of me that I'm denying Another discovery I'm having around depression is that when it is mine, it usually means that I'm cutting myself off from some part of myself- that I am engaging in some form of self-denial. This could be something I don't want to be aware of- like how angry I am- or having lots of judgment and wrongness toward myself rather than space and acceptance. How [...]

By Elana|2020-03-10T19:45:08-07:00March 9th, 2020|Categories: Depression, Uncategorized|Tags: connection, empowerment, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons From Depression: Is this even mine?

Lessons from Depression I'm no stranger to depression. It's something that has been part of my reality, probably since I was about 11 when my beloved teacher of four years died of cancer and I was moving away from childhood into puberty. Dealing with hormonal changes and confronting the realities of life and death at 11 on my own were way too much for my 11-year-old self to handle. So I just kind of cut myself off from [...]

By Elana|2020-03-10T19:25:35-07:00February 1st, 2020|Categories: Depression|Tags: Awareness, Consciousness, depression, empowerment, freedom, happiness, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-awareness, self-help, Transformation|0 Comments

Your choices create your life

Choice I’ve been thinking a lot about choice and the power of choice and how it’s the magic and the secret to having what you desire in life… Really. Think about it for a moment. What you choose really does determine the life you’ll have both now and in the future. So many of us desire, dream of, wish or pray for change in our lives, and yet, what we choose stays the same. If we don’t make [...]

By Elana|2019-12-26T16:00:04-08:00December 27th, 2019|Categories: Creating your life, Transformation|Tags: Awareness, choice, connection, Consciousness, Creating change, empowerment, peace, personal power, Self-determination, self-help, self-respect, Transformation|3 Comments

How far have you already come?

How far have you already come? Have you ever changed something or overcome something in your life and then almost forgotten about it, or who you used to be? Like the way you are now is the way you've always been? Sometimes what I've noticed happens after a big shift or transformation, is that we feel different and once we've integrated the shift we proceed from that different place as if it's our new normal. Because it now [...]

By Elana|2019-12-26T15:32:19-08:00December 26th, 2019|Categories: Transformation|Tags: appreciation, celebration, Consciousness, empowerment, Gratitude, growth, peace, Personal Development, positivity, self-help, self-respect, thanskgiving, Transformation|0 Comments

What do YOU know about YOU?

What do YOU know about YOU? What If somewhere deep down inside of you you KNOW what is true for you, YOU know what is going on for you and what you need to do to shift the places you are stuck or that you feel aren't working in your life? What if no-one, no matter how educated, smart, perceptive, intuitive, or magical knows better than you what is right and true for you? Yet, how often do [...]

By Elana|2015-04-03T16:45:48-07:00April 3rd, 2015|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, healing, personal empowerment, Self-determination, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons from depression: Support your body

Lessons from Depression: Lesson Three: Your Body Might Need Some Support From You As much as I see depression as a symptom- often of something going on in the psyche, some place we are cutting ourselves off from ourselves and our awareness- I know for me it was also important to address the condition of my physical body. Your body also might desire and require additional support and help to balance that it hasn't been getting. I started feeling [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:04:51-08:00March 25th, 2015|Categories: Depression, Uncategorized|Tags: body, connection, Consciousness, Cooperation, depression, empowerment, healing, health, nutrition, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self regulation, Transformation, wellbeing|0 Comments

What else is possible when you surrender the past?

What Else is Possible When You Surrender the Past and Truly Create Your Life from the Present? Welcome to this New Year! This new moment that is full of possibility that has never been before. How true is that of every moment, not just the turn of the year? How true is it for you? Most of us are not living from a place of connection to the possibility within each new moment. Most of us are busy [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:01:26-08:00January 4th, 2015|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, Being present, Consciousness, Creating change, Creating your life, empowerment, letting go of the past, New Years resolutions, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Possibility, Presence, Self-determination, self-help, Transformation|0 Comments

Bars!

Bars! What the heck are Bars? They are points on the head where you hold the electromagnetic charges of your thoughts and beliefs, and when you "have your Bars run" you can discharge and re-set these charges to create more space, peace and possibility. Sound like a whole lot of hocus-pocus? Yeah, that's what I thought too... until I got off the table and experienced such a deep sense of space, peace, calm and self-connection that I'd been [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:04:37-08:00November 21st, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Access Consciousness, Awareness, Bars, Being present, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, healing, peace, space, Transformation|1 Comment

Trust yourself and choose for you

Trust Yourself and Choose for YOU no Justification or Explanation required I am finding the courage to just walk away. Walk away from situations, conditions, dynamics, ways of being and engaging that aren't serving me or resonate for me. Knowing what's true for me in a given moment and trusting and following that truth. It feels truly liberating. No explaining, no justifying, no arguing with myself, also no blame, just clear, present choice about what works for me, how I [...]

By Elana|2019-12-08T18:56:43-08:00June 13th, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, Being present, care-taking, choice, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, personal empowerment, self-confidence, self-respect, Self-trust, trusting yourself, yes|2 Comments

Bullying is a symptom

Bullying is a symptom, can we address it at its cause?Bullying. I've been hearing a bit about bulling lately, chiefly about legislation, laws and rules in response to bullying. My heart goes out to all the children who are or have been victims of bullying, and to their families, especially to the families of those children who have taken their own lives. A tragedy I would not wish upon anyone. However, I really wonder if laws and legislation [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:29-08:00June 6th, 2014|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood|Tags: Bullying, child Empowerment, child rearing, childhood, communication skills, Cooperation, empowerment, Power with, Self-determination, Social Construction of Childhood, Social harmony, win-win|8 Comments

Compliments that Connect

Compliments that ConnectHow able are you to accept a compliment?We all know we “SHOULD” accept compliments when we receive them, but here's the funny thing about compliments- they often come in the form of judgment:“You're so pretty” “You're so smart" “You're such a calm person” “You're so kind and considerate”Have you ever noticed that you might feel slightly uneasy with these compliments even though you “should” be able to take a compliment?The thing with these types of compliments [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:29-08:00May 17th, 2014|Categories: NVC|Tags: comm, communication skills, Compassionate Communication, connection, empowerment, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, NVC practice, relationship building, win-win|4 Comments

Mind the Gap

Mind the Gap: Perhaps you've walked away from a situation or condition that you have been tolerating or that is no-longer serving you and at first it feels liberating. Then you start to wonder if you made the right choice, if things will work out, if you were just overreacting or being silly, if maybe you could have worked things out after all. Maybe you're even considering going back... to the job, to the relationship, to the circumstances that challenged [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:58-08:00May 1st, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: change, Consciousness, empowerment, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Transformation, Vision|0 Comments

The voice that speaks inside

The Voice That Speaks InsideThe Voice, by Shel SilversteinAhh, yes! The voice that speaks inside. And yet, how often do we deny or crush that voice? How often do we argue with that voice or make it wrong?What if you're not wrong? What if you stopped drowning out that voice and started listening to its every little whisper? What would it have to tell you? What would it show you about your life, about your heart, about your [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:28-08:00April 25th, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, connection, empowerment, freedom, inner voice, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Self-trust, Social Construction of Childhood|1 Comment