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Why Just Loving Yourself Isn’t Enough

Why Loving Yourself Isn't EnoughDo you get told when relationships are challenging, or you're not exactly receiving the love that you desire that you just need to love yourself more? And that somehow, self-love is the magic ticket that will solve all your relationship (and life!) problems? I've been hearing for a long time, and maybe you have too, that in order to have love you just need to love yourself... more. While I DO believe that loving yourself is [...]

By Elana|2021-02-14T22:21:55-08:00July 14th, 2020|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: Awareness, healing, love, Personal Development, personal empowerment, relationship building, respect, Self-determination, self-respect, subconscious, subconscious belifes|0 Comments

Re-writing your love story

Re-writing your love story You might not realize it, but you have a love story. I'm not talking about your fairytale-princess version of love, your knight-in-shining-armor kind of story- what I'm talking about is a whole lot more personal and a whole lot closer to you and your life. The love story I'm talking about is the story that has been written into your subconscious through your lived-experiences in life, starting with your family. Our childhood experiences of [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T03:52:32-07:00July 7th, 2020|Categories: relationship, Transformation|Tags: Awareness, Consciousness, healing, love, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust, subconscious, subconscious belifes|0 Comments

Subconscious Family Patterning

Subconscious Family Patterning Have you ever noticed that family relationships can be some of the most challenging? This is often because there is a lifetime of history we are bringing into each interaction, history that often includes painful experiences of not having our needs met from people who we have an evolutionary expectation to meet them... history that often includes struggles for power in one way or another, struggles to meet those needs, or get the people we [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:12:55-07:00June 21st, 2020|Categories: Family|Tags: choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, freedom, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, relationships, self regulation, Self-determination, self-respect, subconscious beliefs, Subconscious patterning|2 Comments

Emancipating Your Anger

Emancipating Your Anger So, I recently spent the whole day super duper depressed. That doesn't happen to me very often anymore but when it does it can be super intense. There are those days that I experience a little wave of depression and easily find my way out of it, (Hint: Who does this belong to?) and then there are those days when nothing seems to help. This was one of those days. What I discovered at the end [...]

By Elana|2020-03-12T16:39:42-07:00March 11th, 2020|Categories: Depression, Transformation, Uncategorized|Tags: Anger, Awareness, connection, Consciousness, depression, Personal Development, self-respect, Transformation|2 Comments

Lessons from Depression: Self Denial

Lessons from Depression Lesson Number Two: There's some part of me that I'm denying Another discovery I'm having around depression is that when it is mine, it usually means that I'm cutting myself off from some part of myself- that I am engaging in some form of self-denial. This could be something I don't want to be aware of- like how angry I am- or having lots of judgment and wrongness toward myself rather than space and acceptance. How [...]

By Elana|2020-03-10T19:45:08-07:00March 9th, 2020|Categories: Depression, Uncategorized|Tags: connection, empowerment, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation|0 Comments

Your choices create your life

Choice I’ve been thinking a lot about choice and the power of choice and how it’s the magic and the secret to having what you desire in life… Really. Think about it for a moment. What you choose really does determine the life you’ll have both now and in the future. So many of us desire, dream of, wish or pray for change in our lives, and yet, what we choose stays the same. If we don’t make [...]

By Elana|2019-12-26T16:00:04-08:00December 27th, 2019|Categories: Creating your life, Transformation|Tags: Awareness, choice, connection, Consciousness, Creating change, empowerment, peace, personal power, Self-determination, self-help, self-respect, Transformation|3 Comments

How far have you already come?

How far have you already come? Have you ever changed something or overcome something in your life and then almost forgotten about it, or who you used to be? Like the way you are now is the way you've always been? Sometimes what I've noticed happens after a big shift or transformation, is that we feel different and once we've integrated the shift we proceed from that different place as if it's our new normal. Because it now [...]

By Elana|2019-12-26T15:32:19-08:00December 26th, 2019|Categories: Transformation|Tags: appreciation, celebration, Consciousness, empowerment, Gratitude, growth, peace, Personal Development, positivity, self-help, self-respect, thanskgiving, Transformation|0 Comments

What do YOU know about YOU?

What do YOU know about YOU? What If somewhere deep down inside of you you KNOW what is true for you, YOU know what is going on for you and what you need to do to shift the places you are stuck or that you feel aren't working in your life? What if no-one, no matter how educated, smart, perceptive, intuitive, or magical knows better than you what is right and true for you? Yet, how often do [...]

By Elana|2015-04-03T16:45:48-07:00April 3rd, 2015|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, healing, personal empowerment, Self-determination, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation|0 Comments

Trust yourself and choose for you

Trust Yourself and Choose for YOU no Justification or Explanation required I am finding the courage to just walk away. Walk away from situations, conditions, dynamics, ways of being and engaging that aren't serving me or resonate for me. Knowing what's true for me in a given moment and trusting and following that truth. It feels truly liberating. No explaining, no justifying, no arguing with myself, also no blame, just clear, present choice about what works for me, how I [...]

By Elana|2019-12-08T18:56:43-08:00June 13th, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, Being present, care-taking, choice, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, personal empowerment, self-confidence, self-respect, Self-trust, trusting yourself, yes|2 Comments

“GOOD” relationships…

"GOOD Relationships" "It only takes one person to have a good relationship..." I heard that piece of information from Byron Katie a while back, but it has taken me a quite a while to really get its meaning. What does that mean? How can that be? My friend was there to listen and make this a good relationship... even if I wasn't having it. So often we blame our partner for how the relationship is [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:02:30-08:00January 15th, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: Awareness, Byron Katie, choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, healing, peace, personal empowerment, personal power, relationship, relationship building, respect, self-respect|3 Comments

Approval Seeking

Approval Seeking ... I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself, If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul... From The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer How much in your life are you seeking approval from outside yourself for who you are and what you do?... How does that feel? How much do you give yourself inner approval? How much do you do things for yourself, [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:47:58-08:00September 25th, 2013|Categories: Transformation, Trusting yourself|Tags: approval, Awareness, choice, empowerment, self-help, self-respect, Transformation|0 Comments

Receiving Judgement

Receiving Judgment How many of us stop yourselves because we are afraid to be judged, afraid what others will think? When you are being more than others are willing to receive or to allow themselves to be, they will go into judgment of you. So, do you want to function from and be controlled by others limitations or are you willing to choose and have a reality that works for you, regardless of what others think? The more [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:40:15-08:00September 16th, 2013|Categories: Creating your life, Transformation, Trusting yourself|Tags: Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, judgement, receiving, Self-determination, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust|2 Comments

The virtue of intolerance

The Virtue of Intolerance Tolerance is something that people usually tout as a virtue, as a quality worth developing. In many ways tolerance can be a virtue. I'm also discovering how it can be a hindrance to forward movement, an obstacle to being in full alignment with our beings and having what we want from life. I've done a lot of tolerating in my life- tolerating which has kept me from clearly knowing and owning what I want, [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:32:41-08:00August 8th, 2013|Categories: being an empath, Creating your life, Transformation, Trusting yourself|Tags: Awareness, choice, Consciousness, decision making, empowerment, peace, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust|5 Comments

Learning to Trust your YES and your NO

Learn to trust your YES and your NO Do you remember what it was like to be five years old? To trust yourself and to clearly know what you did and didn’t want?… To go for what you wanted without hesitation?… To freely share your love and your joy and your aliveness with the world? So what happened to that? What happened to your confidence in knowing what you do or don't want and what's true for you? [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:06:56-08:00July 18th, 2013|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood, Transformation, Trusting yourself|Tags: child rearing, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, healing, inner listening, intuition, Knowing, Parenting, peace, Self-determination, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation, yes and no|4 Comments

Moving past judgements

Moving past Judgements Have you noticed that a lot of what takes you out of being present are judgements and conclusions? Have you noticed that a lot of the feeling crappy that we experience actually has to do with judgements? What If You Stopped Judging You? What would your life be like if you could let yourself just be? What would it be like if you spent one whole day not judging you? Have you ever spent time [...]

By Elana|2019-11-22T21:36:30-08:00June 11th, 2013|Categories: being an empath, Transformation|Tags: Being present, Compassion, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, healing, peace, Possibility, Presence, self-help, self-respect, Transformation, Transforming Judements|0 Comments